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One night I was complaining about my boss. He didn’t seem to appreciate my hard work, nor see in me the potential to lead the company’s new ecommerce initiative. My husband told me, “YOU are in charge of your own happiness. Nobody else is.” “Furthermore, most people don’t care if you are happy or not,” he continued. “Don’t wait for your boss to give you the recognition you are waiting for. Instead, be proud of yourself and the work you do. Don’t wait for HR to offer you the position; if you want it, go get it . Explain to them what you do for the company, give them facts and numbers that illustrate your achievements and then explain why you are the best choice to develop the new ecommerce website. Ease their job, come with a plan and be clear with your aspirations.” YOU are in charge of your own happiness because others don’t really care if you are happy or not. Even a lovely husband or caring mom couldn’t make you happy because they can’t know what your aspirations, dreams and happiness criteria truly are. YOU are in charge of your own happiness. You are the manager of the happiness assessment center, and you control your own happiness GPS. Your happiness is your responsibility. Being happy is YOUR job , nobody else’s. -- Written by Anne Delmarquette
One Monday morning, Alex wakes up, goes to the bathroom and discovers that his bathtub is full of money. Thousands of dollar bills. He runs to the basement, takes a duffle bag, puts all the money in the bag (and some in his pockets), and then hides the bag under his bed. Though very disturbed by his unusual morning, Alex goes to the office. With his wonderful-yet-unsettling secret still on his mind, the very conscientious Alex calms down and tries to focus on his Monday work: sales review. On Tuesday morning, Alex wakes up, goes to the bathroom and finds his bathtub full of money again. Remembering the tale of the goose that laid the golden eggs , he decides to leave the bathtub alone and just go to work. But he does not enjoy the work he normally has to do on Tuesdays. It’s “team day,” which means spending the day listening to salespeople complaining about demanding customers, a colleague’s attitude, working hours, personal issues, and so on. Exhausted, Alex comes back home that night and goes to bed. When he wakes up on Wednesday, the bathtub is completely empty. Not a nickel, not a coin - nothing is in the bathtub. The weeks and months pass by like that. Some mornings the bathtub is full of money, some mornings the bathtub is completely empty. It doesn’t take long for Alex to understand that when he does something he likes at work (writing reports, reviewing proposals, analyzing sales results, etc.) the bathtub is full of money. And when he does something he doesn’t like at work (meeting clients, talking to the board, team meetings, etc.) the bathtub stays empty. If you were Alex, what would you do? If you wake up tomorrow and your bathtub is full of money , what would you do during the day to keep the money coming? -- Written by Anne Delmarquette
Close your eyes and imagine… What would you say to your younger self? What should he/she do that you haven’t done yet? Why don’t you do it now? It’s never too late. -- Written by Anne Delmarquette
Sales people who consistently achieving top results year after year all have three things in common: 1) they believe in the product or service they sell, 2) they enjoy helping their clients, and 3) they enjoy making money. Most of them are pretty happy, because they have figured out what makes them happy, are focused on getting it and pretty much don’t care about the rest. As the saying goes, the important thing is to keep the important thing the important thing. As you reflect on your current and future work, identify the one thing you need to believe in and the two things you enjoy above all. Then make them your focus. And if you can’t, keep looking for that “important thing.” -- Written by  Younes Lattenist
In an increasingly demanding workplace, producing results often requires the ability to handle multiple projects at the same time. For most people, this has come to mean multitasking, or literally doing several things at once. Beyond the obvious negative impact this juggling act has on our productivity, the effects on our stress level and overall happiness are even more profound. Without the ability to focus and deeply appreciate a task, it becomes very difficult to identify what we love in our work and what we don’t. As Cal Newport describes in his book “ Deep Work ,” one key to great work - and to work happiness too, I would argue - is to develop the ability to focus on one thing at a time. (Here’s a nice video summary of the book and here’s Cal’s TED Talk on quitting Social Media ). And if you have to manage multiple things at once? Prioritize, don’t multitask. See if you can tackle them one at a time with deep focus, even if only for 20 minutes each. -- Written by  Younes Lattenist
Dreaming about what we want is exciting. It’s also the first step to actually getting it. But when it comes to work, there’s nothing like doing the stuff to get a real feel for it . We can dream and imagine all we want, but the ultimate test is how we feel while performing the task. Management consulting firms get that. That’s one reason they use case-style interviews . The truth is, if you prepare enough you can ace a case interview and potentially fool the employer ( and yourself ) into thinking you’d be great at the job. The smart way to do it is to take full advantage of that “free sample” of work. Ask yourself if you enjoyed tackling the scenarios presented to you. Then trust your feeling. If you did not enjoy the case interview, regardless of your performance, you’ll be better off not taking the job. Whether we are assessing a new job opportunity or simply trying to figure out our next move, getting a real taste of the task is critical. Whenever possible, ask for and taste that “free sample.” -- Written by  Younes Lattenist
As we move up the corporate ladder, one of the easiest ways to stop doing the parts of our work we find unpleasant is to get someone else to do it for us. There is a catch, though. Finding happiness by making other people unhappy is unsustainable. One way or another it’ll come back to bite us. But there is a way everybody can win: when you become a teaching hand instead of a tasking hand. Whenever you need to get rid of a task you don’t enjoy, try to find a way to use that task to teach someone a skill, a habit or a mindset that will develop that person professionally. Then make sure they know and understand what’s in it for them. Help them connect the dots. Teach them. You’ll win twice and the positive effects will continue for a much longer time than you could have ever imagined. -- Written by  Younes Lattenist
One of the most simple yet powerful definitions of happiness is finding the balance between enjoying the present moment and being excited about the future. What if worrying about the future prevents you from enjoying the good things that are happening to you now? Finding balance actually requires the ability to focus on one thing at a time . Trying to do two or more things at the same time will surely put you out of balance. Ever find yourself thinking about work while spending time with friends or family? How enjoyable was that moment - especially for your friends and family? As an aside, I like to picture a pendulum rather than scales when I think of balance. The good news is that once you realize that balance actually means alternating focus, you will be able to use one of your most important mental tools: your off switch. Literally picture a switch in your mind to make it clear that you are making the conscious choice of focusing on one thing over another for a certain period of time. That’s it. Worry is usually a result of overthinking that leads to fixating on possible negative outcomes rather than possible positive ones. When that happens, use your off switch to come back to a more positive environment for a while. This will make it easier to return to the right way of thinking about your future: being excited about it. -- Written by  Younes Lattenist
Just because reminding ourselves about all the reasons we have to be happy now is so important to our future happiness, it doesn’t mean it’s easy to do. Sometimes, we might even feel it’s impossible to think of reasons to be happy. But when that happens it is even more important to find a way to get back on track and realize that things are not that bad after all. (They usually aren’t.) Here’s a good way to approach these most challenging times: Whenever your mind ventures into negative territory, use it to your advantage. How? By thinking about the things you have right now that you would not want to lose. These are the things you would not trade for anything in the world - even to get rid of the thing that is making you unhappy right now. These are the things that are at the core of Your Happy. Make sure you keep them top of mind . Because they have the power to put you back on your happy track whenever you need them. -- Written by  Younes Lattenist
Here's one of the most paradoxical but important truths about happiness: “To be happy in the future, we need to know how to be happy now.” Why? Because happiness (or unhappiness) is not imposed on us by the world around us. It comes from our ability to take control of our emotions by deciding how we perceive our world. At any given time we have an unlimited number of reasons to be happy - and an equally unlimited number of reasons to be unhappy. Our level of happiness is simply a reflection of our ability to focus on the reasons to be happy and disregard the rest. Before you start planning a brighter future, take a moment to remind yourself about all the reasons you have to be happy now. Then you’ll be well on your way to an even happier one! -- Written by  Younes Lattenist